Why Men Stay (Peter Rosomoff)

This is from Peter Rosomoff, a few years before mid-1998 when it was related to the Circle by Greg Aldrich. As such, it is paraphrased.

When men come out of the Weekend, for the first 6 months to a year, what keeps them going is what they're getting from the Circle.

Then after a while they realize that there's nothing to do but give, and what keeps them going is what they get from giving.

Then it's about 2 or 3 years after that, that's about how long it takes for the man's character to work itself out, to express itself — then the only thing that keeps a man in the Circle after that is pure commitment.

Commentary by Munafo:

Remember the points above, and respect the fact that the "new" men are here for what they are getting. If a new man leaves the circle, he hasn't gotten something. This may be a point for you to take indicating what you should have been giving, or it may just be an indication of the other man's inability to get what was available to them.

Remember and respect the fact that more veteran men are more likely to leave the circle when they find that there is no opportunity to give. This may be from your inability to accept something that you need and that they are trying to give, or may just be an indication of the other man's inability to find a match between what he can give and what those around him need to get.

For the longest old-timers, remember and respect the fact that their continued presence is a reflection of their ongoing commitment, and conversely an old-timer leaving the circle has forsaken or lost that commitment.

Compare to Rick Russell's The Ways Men Quit for a different perspective on some related issues.

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